Hi This is Georgia. I asked a friend of mine to guest post some information about parental alienation. He sent me this:
It is the brainwashing of kids. You got it right, I said brainwashing. This is how it works. At least this is my experience.
“Oh, don’t trust your dad. He doesn’t have your best interest at heart. I am the only one that has your best interest at heart.” When someone plays that record 50 times, soon the kids begin to believe it.
It’s kind of the same reason that affirmations sort of work. The problem is with children they don’t have as much in the way. So the record plays freely and clearly loud and clear all day.
Your ex-spouse separates the child from you. You don’t have a chance.
PAS is becoming a severe problem. Although I believe it’s always been a problem. The other day a friend told me that his friend had kids that never even really knew him until they were in their 20s. The reason why was because the mother refused to allow any of the gifts, cards, messages or otherwise reach the children.
It wasn’t until the mother died a tragic death that the father and the children were reunited. On a side note, it kind of makes you wonder if there’s really is something of such as karma.
I heard an attorney say that the backlash against the alienating parent is horrendous.
If you have lived in these circumstances, then you know, the backlash can’t come fast enough.
Days of isolation are long and arduous. And I find myself sometimes going to resignation.
After all how can you fight for your kids, when they simply perceive it as you being aggressive towards the “Saint” parent? There is definitely a difference between fighting for your kids and giving in to manipulative control by ex-spouse.
I’ll tell you more about my personal experience in another post.